Sometimes the hardest part about being a stay at home mom isn’t the dirty diapers. It isn’t the fat fingers always clinging to you. It isn’t the constant exhausting “play with me momma” phrase. It isn’t even the mess that feels unending.
Sometimes it’s the loneliness. It’s feeling invisible.
It’s the eagerness and need to spend time with another adult human, only to realize it’s your babies naptime.
It’s the depression that you may not even be aware of yet.
The feeling that no matter what you do, it won’t be enough, and you will never finish.
Sometimes the hardest part of being a stay at home mom isn’t the crying, the no lunch break and no clocking out. Sometimes it’s not spending 30min making a mess helping your 3 year old make homemade playdoh, only to find its been eaten by the dog a short 10 minutes later. It’s not cleaning the kitchen while your child destroys their bedroom.
Sometimes it’s the lack of affirmation.
It’s knowing that the end of the day, there will be no pat on the back by your boss.
There will be no hard earned paycheck.
There will be no Christmas social work parties or Christmas gifts or bonuses. There will be no employee luncheons.
There will be no reason to put on make up and real clothes, which in turn can leave you feeling physically less.
It’s a hard job. It’s a selfless job. Sometimes it feels as though you literally give yourself away.
Sometimes you wonder if it’s worth it.
And sometimes it feels as though it’s not.
Sweet mamas, if this is you right now, I want you to look your precious child in the face. Look at their fingers, toes, and belly button.
Remember the sweet moments. The ones you couldn’t wait to tell your husband about. The proud pictures you sent to grandparents when your baby learned to sit up, crawl, walk, talk. When they said their first prayer. When they were so fun and funny that you couldn’t help but just sit and watch their imaginations.
Remember how brave you’ve been.
Embrace how strong you can be. Your strength is more than you know.
I want to encourage you to find a friend. Or two or three. Invite them into your messy house, because chances are their house is just as messy.
I want to encourage you seasoned mama’s to be a friend. Find a mom who needs a friend and invite her into your home. Tell her she is doing a great job. Give her cookies.
Husband’s, be that kind word of affirmation. Show her compassion. Tell her thank you. See her. Teach your kids to acknowledge her too.
And mama’s, always know that there is a mighty, powerful, all-knowing God who made you momma. For that specific baby. At this specific time. And you are doing a great job.