Choose out of love. Not out of fear.


Such a powerful emotion isn’t it?

And if you’re caught in an unplanned pregnancy, fear may be strong enough to take your breath away.

Fear of how to financially provide.

Fear of what a baby will do to your future, to your plans, to your body.

Fear of judgement.

And believe me. I’ve been there. I understand.

I was a jobless, unmarried, poor, college teenager, and pregnant with a baby that had a birth defect.

I could have made a choice that would allow me to continue on with my dreams, that would allow me to not go through life changing events like marriage and motherhood.

But I chose life.

I was faced with the choice of marrying a man I loved, years before I thought I would be ready for that commitment.

Knowing that the baby who sped up our marriage plans was sick and might not make it.

But I still chose life.

And I can’t tell you how thankful I am.

Watching my baby fight for his life, and fighting with him through prayer made me stronger than I ever could have imagined.

Going through it and leaning on my husband, who I felt like was the only person who understood, strengthened our marriage in ways I never could have imagined.

Choosing life in the face of heartache is a passion for me. I understand the fear, the pain, and the unknown. I understand.

And I also understand that choosing life was one of the best things that has ever happened to me.

All life has purpose, has value, all life is God-breathed. From the plants and trees, to the animals, to the elderly in the nursing homes, to the special needs adults, to the preemie babies.

To the unhealthy baby growing in his teenage mommas tummy. All life is important.

Rich or poor, young or old, sick or healthy, born or unborn. Life has value.

I can not imagine the thought of never knowing my baby boy. I look at him and my heart breaks at the thought of so many who would not choose him.

I know that I can not force you to chose life.

But momma, please know this. Your baby WILL be a blessing. To someone. You can choose to let that sweet baby be a blessing in your home. Or you can choose to let that sweet baby be a blessing in someone else’s home. Regardless, your baby is a blessing.

So if you find yourself faced with a choice, please please don’t let your heart choose out of fear, but instead choose out of love.

*If you are a momma and have chosen out of fear, know this. There is one whose love, grace, and forgiveness can cover you, and me, and everyone else.

**This article is revised from the original post here.

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